You may remember that goal #4 on my "In 2014, I Hope to ..." list is to guest post once a month for another person's blog. Well, my new blogging friend, Astleigh, suggested this opportunity for the month of January in the nick of time.
All week long over at her blog Tale of Two Hills, she has had friends contribute healthy, clean recipes based on a specific category. Each post begins with a brief story or introduction to the author (and her eating habits), followed by a simple, healthy recipe.
Today is my day! Traditional Thursday!
Head on over to Astleigh's blog to read my healthy reinterpretation of the All-American "Burger, Fries, & Pickle Meal" (and witness my attempt to photograph food. Good grief.)
I suggest reading the other guest posts as well! Curry, broccoli soup, pot pie, oh my!
Also, if you are new to my blog, welcome. Click here to find a series I wrote containing a super-simple monthly meal plan!
Lesson Learned: It is interesting to see the various ways different authors respond to the same assignment. And to see what people enjoy cooking, you know, in real life.
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January 23, 2014
January 10, 2014
Lesson 164: In 2014, I Hope To ...
Turns out, a themed collection of awesome blog posts in a single location is one of my new favorite things. (Along with raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens.) Friends, I had an excellent time looking back at 2013 with you and reflecting on ways we've all grown. Thanks for all who participated. (See here if you haven't read yet.)
But now, it's time to more forward. We know where we've been. Where are we going?
Welcome to the "In 2014, I Hope to ..." Link-Up Party! This is a place for goals, aspirations, dreams. We're setting agendas here. Developing game plans. Thinking big!
Well ... let's see what you've got! Can't wait to be inspired.
http://goo.gl/vLuky5
But now, it's time to more forward. We know where we've been. Where are we going?
Welcome to the "In 2014, I Hope to ..." Link-Up Party! This is a place for goals, aspirations, dreams. We're setting agendas here. Developing game plans. Thinking big!
Well ... let's see what you've got! Can't wait to be inspired.
http://goo.gl/vLuky5
December 27, 2013
Lesson 152: In 2013, I Learned ... LINK-UP PARTY IS ON!
Welcome to the very first Link-Up Party ever hosted here at I Don't Have a Clue ... But I'm Finding Out! I am so excited to introduce you to such a fun group of bloggers.
What you'll find here is a collection of posts authored by various writers, reflecting on the lessons they have learned this past year.
The style and content of each writer is unique, so take some time and persue the collection. The hope is that you will learn from their experiences and be inspired by their examples. It is eye-opening to consider how others have spent their last twelve months.
We hope you enjoy exploring these posts, and perhaps, you'll make some friends as well!
Thanks so much for coming by! Now let's party like it's 2013!
http://goo.gl/fuvd4I
What you'll find here is a collection of posts authored by various writers, reflecting on the lessons they have learned this past year.
The style and content of each writer is unique, so take some time and persue the collection. The hope is that you will learn from their experiences and be inspired by their examples. It is eye-opening to consider how others have spent their last twelve months.
We hope you enjoy exploring these posts, and perhaps, you'll make some friends as well!
Thanks so much for coming by! Now let's party like it's 2013!
http://goo.gl/fuvd4I
December 20, 2013
Lesson 150: A Christmas Message (& Reading)
Well, I'm off for the week!
Off to sweet time with family and friends. Off to rest. Off to celebrate the birth of our Savior.
I do a wish a special Merry Christmas to you. I pray this would be a time of reflection upon God's gracious gift to us all, his Son, Jesus Christ. I pray that your hearts would be opened to his love, filled to the brim with gospel grace, even to overflowing. I pray that you enter 2014 with a heart set on serving Him!
Do not forget to come back next week to participate in my very first link-up party! If you are a blogger yourself, please do not hesitate to link-up your post on your 2013 lesson or lessons. If you are a reader, come back to find links to posts written by other great writers!
While I'm away, here's a few of my favorite posts from 2013 to keep you occupied!
1. January: Oh, Motherhood!
2. February: The 26.2 Club
3. April: Cleaning Under the Fridge
4. May: What I Learned in Seminary
5. July: A Series of Unexpected Events
6. August: A "New" Night Before the First Day of School
7. September: Guess Who Passed His Ordination Exams Today!
8. October: I Married the LOML on 10/10
9. October: A Masters Degree and Two Babies (A Series)
10. November: The Problem of Transition and A Refuge in Transition
Lesson Learned: It is hard to narrow a year's worth of posts into 10 (which is why there are really eleven.)
Off to sweet time with family and friends. Off to rest. Off to celebrate the birth of our Savior.
I do a wish a special Merry Christmas to you. I pray this would be a time of reflection upon God's gracious gift to us all, his Son, Jesus Christ. I pray that your hearts would be opened to his love, filled to the brim with gospel grace, even to overflowing. I pray that you enter 2014 with a heart set on serving Him!
Do not forget to come back next week to participate in my very first link-up party! If you are a blogger yourself, please do not hesitate to link-up your post on your 2013 lesson or lessons. If you are a reader, come back to find links to posts written by other great writers!
While I'm away, here's a few of my favorite posts from 2013 to keep you occupied!
1. January: Oh, Motherhood!
2. February: The 26.2 Club
3. April: Cleaning Under the Fridge
4. May: What I Learned in Seminary
5. July: A Series of Unexpected Events
6. August: A "New" Night Before the First Day of School
7. September: Guess Who Passed His Ordination Exams Today!
8. October: I Married the LOML on 10/10
9. October: A Masters Degree and Two Babies (A Series)
10. November: The Problem of Transition and A Refuge in Transition
Lesson Learned: It is hard to narrow a year's worth of posts into 10 (which is why there are really eleven.)
December 18, 2013
Lesson 149: Picture Perfect(ish)
Loyal readers, you who are ever-so-patient with my photography shortcomings, thank you! A new dawn is breaking, and I will now be making attempts at using photo-editing software. I do hope it improves your viewing experinece.
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| A girl covered in flour is significantly funnier in high-def! |
Non-iphone relient suggestions are welcome!
Lesson Learned: For bloggers struggling with dull-colored photos, give this link a lookster!
December 16, 2013
Lesson 147: In 2013, I Learned ... Link-Up Party
Friends, I am taking a big step in the blogging world. On Dec. 28, I will open up the link to my very first link-up party.
Me? Host a link-up party? Hilarious.
What is a link-up party? A link-up party is when one site creates a themed post which allows other bloggers to attach links to posts from their own blog based on relevant content.
It's a fun way for bloggers to connect with each other, find new blogs, and learn!
As you know, my blog is called I Don't Have a Clue ... But I'm Finding Out, and if you are a regular reader, you know that the topics I'm finding out about cover a wide spectrum!
So, the theme is "In 2013 ... I Learned ... " (Update: Find the link HERE!)
I want to know what you found out about this year! The goal is that topics will vary, and in the end the collection will be useful for a range of readers!
I'm giving you a heads-up, because I hope that you will take a minute and think about what your post could be about! We want your wisdom!
What to Do:
1. Think through your post, write it, and post on your blog.
2. Contact other blogging friends, who might be interested in joining, and send them a link to this post.
3. Come back here on Dec. 28 and attach your link to the collection. (Super easy to figure out if you've never done this before.)
4. Let your readers know what you're a part of, so they will come over and read what the others have to say!
5. Read other posts and learn!
I am so excited to see what you all come up with!
Lesson Learned: An online link-up party of wisdom = The Best.
Me? Host a link-up party? Hilarious.
What is a link-up party? A link-up party is when one site creates a themed post which allows other bloggers to attach links to posts from their own blog based on relevant content.
It's a fun way for bloggers to connect with each other, find new blogs, and learn!
As you know, my blog is called I Don't Have a Clue ... But I'm Finding Out, and if you are a regular reader, you know that the topics I'm finding out about cover a wide spectrum!
So, the theme is "In 2013 ... I Learned ... " (Update: Find the link HERE!)
I want to know what you found out about this year! The goal is that topics will vary, and in the end the collection will be useful for a range of readers!
I'm giving you a heads-up, because I hope that you will take a minute and think about what your post could be about! We want your wisdom!
What to Do:
1. Think through your post, write it, and post on your blog.
2. Contact other blogging friends, who might be interested in joining, and send them a link to this post.
3. Come back here on Dec. 28 and attach your link to the collection. (Super easy to figure out if you've never done this before.)
4. Let your readers know what you're a part of, so they will come over and read what the others have to say!
5. Read other posts and learn!
I am so excited to see what you all come up with!
Lesson Learned: An online link-up party of wisdom = The Best.
December 09, 2013
Lesson 142: Welcome Miss Minimalist Readers!
Welcome!
So glad you stopped by I Don't Have a Clue ... But I'm Finding Out! I hope you enjoy looking around a bit.
As you will find, this blog is not a minimalist-themed blog, but rather the documentation of my journey to acquire wisdom. Recently, ideas such as minimalism and simplicity have been a part of that journey.
A few related posts include:
Lesson 70: Cleaning Out
Lesson 85: Cleaning Out ... Again
Lesson 82: Inside My Fridge
Lesson 53: Content with Today
Lesson 78: Lessons from Dancing in the Kitchen
If you have a blog pertaining to some of these ideas, I would love if you would leave a comment below with a link to your writing. I am always looking for new sources of inspiration.
For my regular readers: I am featured on Miss Minimalist today. Head over there if you would like to read about my newest adventure in getting rid of stuff! It's content well-suited for the holiday season.
Thanks again to Miss Minimalist for this opportunity!
Lesson Learned: How will I be challenged to purge more today? I wonder ...
So glad you stopped by I Don't Have a Clue ... But I'm Finding Out! I hope you enjoy looking around a bit.
As you will find, this blog is not a minimalist-themed blog, but rather the documentation of my journey to acquire wisdom. Recently, ideas such as minimalism and simplicity have been a part of that journey.
A few related posts include:
Lesson 70: Cleaning Out
Lesson 85: Cleaning Out ... Again
Lesson 82: Inside My Fridge
Lesson 53: Content with Today
Lesson 78: Lessons from Dancing in the Kitchen
If you have a blog pertaining to some of these ideas, I would love if you would leave a comment below with a link to your writing. I am always looking for new sources of inspiration.
For my regular readers: I am featured on Miss Minimalist today. Head over there if you would like to read about my newest adventure in getting rid of stuff! It's content well-suited for the holiday season.
Thanks again to Miss Minimalist for this opportunity!
Lesson Learned: How will I be challenged to purge more today? I wonder ...
October 03, 2013
Lesson 107: Vote!
Yesterday I unveiled a new blog design. A lot of people looked at it.
Thanks for that!
But friends, we are not finished yet. As the theme of this blog is all about perfecting unfinished products, it is logical that the blog design is no different. I wish I could say that what you saw yesterday was set in stone. Or at least set in code.
Unfortunately, today it already looks different.
Most of the basic elements remain the same. New header, a few stylistic details dropped, a few added.
However you may notice, today the background is a deep green. Yesterday it was a lighter gray. Today the contrast is greater. Yesterday things blended a bit more.
Thanks to a friend's kindness, I can actually give you an idea of what it looked like.
Which design gave you a better initial first impression? Which made you happier immediately? Which made you want to stay on the site longer?
I would really appreciate feedback!
So, please vote in the comments section of the blog.
Go Team Green! Go Team Gray!
(Additional comments are welcome as well. I am really hoping to get this right, and then let it be.)
Appreciate y'all!
Lesson Learned: Does the background of a blog make a difference? We shall see!
Thanks for that!
But friends, we are not finished yet. As the theme of this blog is all about perfecting unfinished products, it is logical that the blog design is no different. I wish I could say that what you saw yesterday was set in stone. Or at least set in code.
Unfortunately, today it already looks different.
Most of the basic elements remain the same. New header, a few stylistic details dropped, a few added.
However you may notice, today the background is a deep green. Yesterday it was a lighter gray. Today the contrast is greater. Yesterday things blended a bit more.
Thanks to a friend's kindness, I can actually give you an idea of what it looked like.
Which design gave you a better initial first impression? Which made you happier immediately? Which made you want to stay on the site longer?
I would really appreciate feedback!
So, please vote in the comments section of the blog.
Go Team Green! Go Team Gray!
(Additional comments are welcome as well. I am really hoping to get this right, and then let it be.)
Appreciate y'all!
Lesson Learned: Does the background of a blog make a difference? We shall see!
October 02, 2013
Lesson 106: A New Look
If you are a regular reader, you may have noticed that some things have changed around here lately, you know, with the blog's appearance.
No, you are not just imagining things. The blog really does look different.
To be honest, all this change is making me feel super awkward (well at least my online self feels awkward. In real life, I feel fine.)
The emotions are similar to when I go and chop all my hair off. Excited, unsure, crazy.
I'm freakin' out here! (Kind of.)
So ... (in all seriousness)
If you are a regular reader, someone who cares about the best interests of this blog ...
I'd appreciate your feedback on the new look.
Reasons for the Change:
1. Mark felt like the other format was too wide.
2. I didn't like the font at the bottom of the photo.
3. I felt kind of guilty displaying pictures of paintings I didn't create. (I took the new photo).
Truths About My Blogs Appearance to Take Into Consideration as You Critique:
1. My blog name is really long and hard to feature.
2. I don't actually know what I'm doing on these photo editing programs, so don't be too harsh.
3. I considered going uber-simple, like Rachel of Small Notebook (she's basically my blogging hero), but y'all, it's just not me! I am colorful!
4. I'm not paying anyone to fix it for me. At least, not until the moola starts rolling in!
5. I reserve the right to ignore any and all comments! :)
So ... have at it, friends!
Lesson Learned: This is my 2nd attempt at a self-created blog header. I am not sure whether it's an improvement or not.
No, you are not just imagining things. The blog really does look different.
To be honest, all this change is making me feel super awkward (well at least my online self feels awkward. In real life, I feel fine.)
The emotions are similar to when I go and chop all my hair off. Excited, unsure, crazy.
I'm freakin' out here! (Kind of.)
So ... (in all seriousness)
If you are a regular reader, someone who cares about the best interests of this blog ...
I'd appreciate your feedback on the new look.
Reasons for the Change:
1. Mark felt like the other format was too wide.
2. I didn't like the font at the bottom of the photo.
3. I felt kind of guilty displaying pictures of paintings I didn't create. (I took the new photo).
Truths About My Blogs Appearance to Take Into Consideration as You Critique:
1. My blog name is really long and hard to feature.
2. I don't actually know what I'm doing on these photo editing programs, so don't be too harsh.
3. I considered going uber-simple, like Rachel of Small Notebook (she's basically my blogging hero), but y'all, it's just not me! I am colorful!
4. I'm not paying anyone to fix it for me. At least, not until the moola starts rolling in!
5. I reserve the right to ignore any and all comments! :)
So ... have at it, friends!
Lesson Learned: This is my 2nd attempt at a self-created blog header. I am not sure whether it's an improvement or not.
September 23, 2013
Lesson 101: So You Want to Support the Blog ...
I know, there are a billion blogs on the internet. (That is probably not even an exaggeration.) Why in the world would you pay to read this particular one?
Answer: You wouldn't.
But, friends. I am not asking you to pay me to read my blog. I am merely pointing out a way you can help support the blog when you make purchases on items you already plan to buy.
Across the top of the blog, there are little tabs. They are entitled "My Home." "My Archives." "My Store."
If you click on the "My Store" tab, you will see that it is a very simple store featuring products I like and recommend.
There are two ways "I Don't Have A Clue" can make money through this store:
1. You can simply take one of my suggestions, check out, and I make a percentage on the item.
2. You can click on any link in the store, and it will lead you to amazon. Once on the amazon site, you add items to your cart. As long as the items are added within 24 hours of the initial entry to amazon, I will receive the same percentage as if you bought it right out of "My Store."
So, if you are a regular amazon shopper or are getting ready to order for Christmas, as long as you enter the site through my blog and purchase within a short time after, I will make a little money! Note: You will not pay more for the item. Amazon will simply reward me for the referral.
I do not want you to buy unnecessary items! However, if this is a place you already shop, I'd appreciate you entering through this site!
Thanks!
Lesson Learned: Affiliate ads (another way to make money off a blog) yielded me $6 this past year. I'm trying something new!
P.S. I'm pretty sure it's legal that I posted a blog explaining this, but if someone knows differently, please let me know!
“Katherine Ashbaugh is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to amazon.com.”
Answer: You wouldn't.
But, friends. I am not asking you to pay me to read my blog. I am merely pointing out a way you can help support the blog when you make purchases on items you already plan to buy.
Across the top of the blog, there are little tabs. They are entitled "My Home." "My Archives." "My Store."
If you click on the "My Store" tab, you will see that it is a very simple store featuring products I like and recommend.
There are two ways "I Don't Have A Clue" can make money through this store:
1. You can simply take one of my suggestions, check out, and I make a percentage on the item.
2. You can click on any link in the store, and it will lead you to amazon. Once on the amazon site, you add items to your cart. As long as the items are added within 24 hours of the initial entry to amazon, I will receive the same percentage as if you bought it right out of "My Store."
So, if you are a regular amazon shopper or are getting ready to order for Christmas, as long as you enter the site through my blog and purchase within a short time after, I will make a little money! Note: You will not pay more for the item. Amazon will simply reward me for the referral.
I do not want you to buy unnecessary items! However, if this is a place you already shop, I'd appreciate you entering through this site!
Thanks!
Lesson Learned: Affiliate ads (another way to make money off a blog) yielded me $6 this past year. I'm trying something new!
P.S. I'm pretty sure it's legal that I posted a blog explaining this, but if someone knows differently, please let me know!
“Katherine Ashbaugh is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to amazon.com.”
April 15, 2013
Lesson 69: Happy Birthday Blog
One year ago today, I posted this and set out on a great blogging adventure. I meant to have done a lot reflection for today's celebration, but unfortunately, I am tired and and well, I haven't done much. Perhaps toddler blogs, like real toddlers, tire you out ... and interestingly, I have both!
In any event, enjoy the chocolate cake smeared all over my one-year old blog's face, as we celebrate another year of ignorance regarding growing up, and an insatiable desire to learn.
Lesson Learned: Blog birthdays can be slightly anticlimatic. Also, blog's don't really have faces.
In any event, enjoy the chocolate cake smeared all over my one-year old blog's face, as we celebrate another year of ignorance regarding growing up, and an insatiable desire to learn.
Lesson Learned: Blog birthdays can be slightly anticlimatic. Also, blog's don't really have faces.
September 03, 2012
Lesson 43: My Blog Baby Becomes a Toddler
These days, Hudson spends a good portion of each waking hour in an impressive planks position. Arms straight, legs straight, back flat in the air, hovering over the ground.
This boy is in the final stages of sedentary living. He is ready to crawl!
His muscles are strengthening, his form improving, and soon ... he will take off.
Hudson's physical development provides a perfect analogy for the positioning of this blog. "I Don't Have A Clue" has been up and running for five months, but it feels as though all that time has been spent in exercise and preparation. Infancy if you will. It's only during the past month that I've really begun to see what this thing can do.
Clearly, the amount of posts has increased. July - 5. August - 20.
However, it's not just the writing that has amplified, but also a sense of focus and purpose has entered the picture. I feel as though "I Don't Have A Clue" is finally claiming its identify and that identity is being tangibly fleshed out.
This boy is in the final stages of sedentary living. He is ready to crawl!
His muscles are strengthening, his form improving, and soon ... he will take off.
Hudson's physical development provides a perfect analogy for the positioning of this blog. "I Don't Have A Clue" has been up and running for five months, but it feels as though all that time has been spent in exercise and preparation. Infancy if you will. It's only during the past month that I've really begun to see what this thing can do.
Clearly, the amount of posts has increased. July - 5. August - 20.
However, it's not just the writing that has amplified, but also a sense of focus and purpose has entered the picture. I feel as though "I Don't Have A Clue" is finally claiming its identify and that identity is being tangibly fleshed out.
August 07, 2012
Lesson 25: Blogging Strategy
I entered the blogging world with a vengeance. I got the idea one day, created the main page, wrote an entry, and posted. I then began to research blogs. Turns out I did a fair amount of things wrong. It's ok. I'm learning, and I can make changes.
Since being in the blogging world, I've begun reading way more blogs than I ever have before. I think this is natural. I read them to be inspired, see what succeeds, and critique in order to avoid pitfalls.
I have noticed two characteristic things in my recent blog research about successful blogs.
1. A lot of times successful bloggers don't post original content. They simply link you to something they've found. At first this really irritated me. It feels like cheating to me. These bloggers are getting credit (and blog traffic) while someone else does all the work.
However, Mark informed me that these are some of his favorite blogs. He likes to find a blogger who typically links him to things he's interested in. This blogger does all the work of scouring the internet, and Mark simply benefits from it.
Point noted.
Since being in the blogging world, I've begun reading way more blogs than I ever have before. I think this is natural. I read them to be inspired, see what succeeds, and critique in order to avoid pitfalls.
I have noticed two characteristic things in my recent blog research about successful blogs.
1. A lot of times successful bloggers don't post original content. They simply link you to something they've found. At first this really irritated me. It feels like cheating to me. These bloggers are getting credit (and blog traffic) while someone else does all the work.
However, Mark informed me that these are some of his favorite blogs. He likes to find a blogger who typically links him to things he's interested in. This blogger does all the work of scouring the internet, and Mark simply benefits from it.
Point noted.
July 16, 2012
Lesson 19: Month Three Evaluation
During a lecture on “How to Write a
Good College Essay” senior year of high school, I distinctly
remember my teacher reading us a sample essay entitled something
like, Why My Sister is Like the Hoover Dam ...”
Sisters and the Hoover Dam have nothing
in common. And yet, somehow, through some masterful writing, a young
man made this exact comparison and received an acceptance to the
college of his choice.
This raises the question. Does good
writing make writing good, or does good subject matter make writing
good?
I Don't Have a Clue … (But I'm
Finding Out) began innocently enough in April of this year. After
that initial post, I resolved to sign on for another three months to
fully give my metaphorical writing legs a chance to stretch out and
see if this was a hobby I should continue pursuing.
Through the course of writing, I have continually run into this question.
Allow me to recap the past three months
through the lens of my blog.
The high of the initial post is hard to
beat. Readership is good and continues to grow daily.
Doubts come. I express them in writing, the second post. I receive encouragement, gain confidence, and push ahead.
I decide to make a career of this
writing thing, and begin to research “How to Make Money Off a
Blog.” Turns out it requires a whole lot more readership, a
whole lot of time and energy, and most likely the publication of an
e-book.
I consider writing an e-book, formulate
a plausible idea, and proceed to get bogged down with summer classes
… and two children under the age of 3.
My idea supply compiled on day one of
the blog runs out. People are not really that interested in the
mundane occupations of life that I don't have a clue about.
I'm forced to dig deeper. I reflect on
the sister / Hoover Dam comparison. It's genius. I can do this kind
of rando-connecting. In fact, this is what great writing is.
Why then, does The Story of My Hair
(straight narrative) have more page hits than Greatness, Not Sweetness (touches on Starbursts, the Olympics, who knows what else)?
I continue on. In a season of hosting a
graduation party, two baby showers, and a few birthday shindigs here
and there, I manage to punch out some stuff every now and then.
I'm not posting enough. I'm letting my readers down.
I realize that a person's life is not dependent upon whether or not I write a blog post.
I decide the entire endeavor is a
total failure. The blog will cease to be prematurely.
But then comes ... the caterpillar. I am revived by the idea of making it big on Pinterest.
I wonder, why does my energy for this
thing surge the second glory is involved? Sin. Sin. Sin.
I am reminded over and over again of
the reasons I began writing the blog in the first place.
- To share knowledge that it is assumed I should possess, but that in truth I am still attaining.
- To practice writing, because it is a joy to do and a good way to be creative.
- To entertain readers, at least occasionally.
Thus, we come to the present. The three
month trial period is over. An evaluation is in order.
This blog has been a fruitful outlet for
creative writing, and a slight inconvenience to the order of our
daily family life. (I'm not the most gracious person to distraction when I
am writing).
It has been a great way to reconnect
with old friends, form relationships with new friends, and
potentially alienate friends from both categories.
It has been a source of pride, humility and disappointment. It has also been exhilarating and fun.
Yet, through all this, I still haven't figured out the
answer to this post's initial question.
Is good writing about the
writing or about the content?
Mark really liked the blog post about
sewing, because he thought it was funny. He doesn't care about sewing
at all. He loves the Olympics, but thought my
post that talked about the Olympics was super boring.
That makes me rank writing over
content.
Then again, the content of Hudson's
Bedroom Post just bored him all around. He loathes decorating
discussions, and there was no way the writing was going to save me. Not a chance.
Mark's opinion matters, but other reflection is good as well.
Professional bloggers, that I consulted
during my “blogging will be my career” stage, will say that in
order for a blog to make money (and thus, be successful), it should never include personal
information or references to popular culture (unless it is something
like a fashion blog). Doing so negates the blog's lasting potential.
A blog makes money when it continues to get hits on old posts after
years and years.
Unfortunately, that is almost entirely
what this blog is. Yet, I don't know if I would even want to write if
it was impersonal and unconnected to current culture.
Professional bloggers will also say
that a blog should begin with its target niche in mind. The topic
should be broad enough to have sufficient content, but small enough
that it does not confuse readers.
Unfortunately, I think I may be more
confused about the direction of this blog than I was when I began.
Yet, I have enjoying exploring various different types of writing and
speaking on a range of topics.
Finally, professional bloggers will say
that it takes at least six months if not way longer to even
begin to make an impact and certainly to make any money.
On this, I will concede. Three months
is not near long enough to properly evaluate something that is really
just beginning to take form.
Thus, I have decided to continue
writing and have set yet another date for blog evaluation.
You will be able to continue to read
about the things I don't have a clue about, (but that I am finding
out about) until I complete a full year of writing.
At that point, perhaps I will have more
clarity. In the mean time, I'm simply doing it for the love of the
writing. (If you rolled your eyes, that's ok. It was meant to be
corny.)
Next post … How I Am Like an Ear of
Corn.
What makes this more intriguing ... the potential writing or the potential content?
Who knows? Maybe it'll get me into college.
Lesson Learned: Blogs. Man, I just keep
learning.
P.S. I have already graduated from
college. That last sentence was a joke.
June 19, 2012
Lesson 16: My Entrance to Pinterest
I entered the world of Pinterest last summer as finals were ending. My friends at school were raving about this website that gave them all sorts of creative ways to use pallets in home decor. I was intrigued.
After a few days of obsessive pinning, I sort of got over the craze of the site and began to only use it for practical purposes.
And I will say, it has been helpful. For example, I pinned this ...
... and then accomplished this.
However, recently, pinterest has let me down.
Last week Jenni and I threw a baby shower for our friend, Teresa. This is Teresa's second baby (born today: congratulations) since we've all been in seminary. Hence, we have already thrown her a shower. The last one was crazy! Husbands and kids were invited so there were people everywhere, the menu was burgers with every topping and corn on the cob, and activities included a huge game of soccer.
We decided to take a different approach this time. Just girls, no kids, beautiful, classy, calm, sweet. We used Jenni's monogrammed silver and her new dessert china. We subtly leaned towards boy colors. (We were right!)
For a gift, we asked Teresa what she really needed and collected money to buy her the one big thing. Turned out her biggest need was new cloth diapers. Yes, my friends, she is a cloth diaper kind of girl! They worked with the first and so she's sticking with them with the second.
She registered for seven little green diapers. They really are the cutest things ever. However, it's kind of a weird shower if the momma-to-be only gets one present and she already knows what it is.
Thus, I consulted pinterest because I just knew the site would have some ridiculously adorable, creative idea for turning my seven lame diapers into a baby shower sensation.
Boy was I wrong! It was so predictable! There were diaper cakes all over the place and a few diaper wreaths. The only original ideas I saw were a little baby carriage, a tricycle, and a baby all made out of diapers. However, all were constructed using throwaways rather than cloth.
Distraught, I enlisted the help of some very creative friends here in Clover. Real flesh and blood people. Our mission was to turn seven cloth diapers in some unified cute creature that also highlighted the fact that it was made of diapers.
After humming and hawing, a bit of frowning and backtracking ... a light bulb went off ... A CATERPILLAR!
How cute is he?!?!?!
I wish I could give you the play by play of how to make one yourself. I realize that's the standard for a successful post. Unfortunately, I did more of the suggestion making rather than the actual making of him. I can tell you a few things though.
1. Shirley ran one piece of fabric through the whole thing to connect them all.
2. She stuffed the diapers with tissue paper.
3. She used rubber bands to tie various things together ... no pins! You do not want to pick the diapers.
4. The little legs are made out of washcloths and are connected through the diaper legs with pipe cleaners.
5. The feet are baby socks.
6. The eyes are also socks. (I made those.)
7. The tail is little mittens used to keep baby from scratching himself.
8. The antennas are pipe cleaners.
9. She also used glue dots when needed. They work great and do not leave marks.
Other than that you are on your own!
You may be wondering why this post is entitled "My Entrance to pinterest." You may be thinking, "Katherine, you are already on pinterest. How could this be your entrance?"
I have an ulterior motive for posting about this cool caterpillar. The second we thought up the idea, I began dancing around the room saying, "I'm going viral on pinterest. I'm going viral on pinterest."
You see, since starting this blog, I've done some research on how to increase blog viewership. One of the main ways is to have an image or post get circulated around pinterest. Unfortunately, my blog is almost entirely writing. People do not pin and repin long passages of writing.
Ahh, but then came the caterpillar!
Baby shower hosts all over the world need to know that green cloth diapers can become a friendly, little guy like this one, and you are just the people to tell them. If you agree with me that this guy is super cute ... you know what to do!
Lesson Learned: Online creativity is no substitute for real life creativity!
Lesson to be Learned:I would like to add the pin it button to the blog, so if you know how to do that, please let me know! Here's really simple directions to doing it!
After a few days of obsessive pinning, I sort of got over the craze of the site and began to only use it for practical purposes.
And I will say, it has been helpful. For example, I pinned this ...
... and then accomplished this.
However, recently, pinterest has let me down.
Last week Jenni and I threw a baby shower for our friend, Teresa. This is Teresa's second baby (born today: congratulations) since we've all been in seminary. Hence, we have already thrown her a shower. The last one was crazy! Husbands and kids were invited so there were people everywhere, the menu was burgers with every topping and corn on the cob, and activities included a huge game of soccer.
We decided to take a different approach this time. Just girls, no kids, beautiful, classy, calm, sweet. We used Jenni's monogrammed silver and her new dessert china. We subtly leaned towards boy colors. (We were right!)
For a gift, we asked Teresa what she really needed and collected money to buy her the one big thing. Turned out her biggest need was new cloth diapers. Yes, my friends, she is a cloth diaper kind of girl! They worked with the first and so she's sticking with them with the second.
She registered for seven little green diapers. They really are the cutest things ever. However, it's kind of a weird shower if the momma-to-be only gets one present and she already knows what it is.
Thus, I consulted pinterest because I just knew the site would have some ridiculously adorable, creative idea for turning my seven lame diapers into a baby shower sensation.
Boy was I wrong! It was so predictable! There were diaper cakes all over the place and a few diaper wreaths. The only original ideas I saw were a little baby carriage, a tricycle, and a baby all made out of diapers. However, all were constructed using throwaways rather than cloth.
Distraught, I enlisted the help of some very creative friends here in Clover. Real flesh and blood people. Our mission was to turn seven cloth diapers in some unified cute creature that also highlighted the fact that it was made of diapers.
After humming and hawing, a bit of frowning and backtracking ... a light bulb went off ... A CATERPILLAR!
How cute is he?!?!?!
I wish I could give you the play by play of how to make one yourself. I realize that's the standard for a successful post. Unfortunately, I did more of the suggestion making rather than the actual making of him. I can tell you a few things though.
1. Shirley ran one piece of fabric through the whole thing to connect them all.
2. She stuffed the diapers with tissue paper.
3. She used rubber bands to tie various things together ... no pins! You do not want to pick the diapers.
4. The little legs are made out of washcloths and are connected through the diaper legs with pipe cleaners.
5. The feet are baby socks.
6. The eyes are also socks. (I made those.)
7. The tail is little mittens used to keep baby from scratching himself.
8. The antennas are pipe cleaners.
9. She also used glue dots when needed. They work great and do not leave marks.
Other than that you are on your own!
You may be wondering why this post is entitled "My Entrance to pinterest." You may be thinking, "Katherine, you are already on pinterest. How could this be your entrance?"
I have an ulterior motive for posting about this cool caterpillar. The second we thought up the idea, I began dancing around the room saying, "I'm going viral on pinterest. I'm going viral on pinterest."
You see, since starting this blog, I've done some research on how to increase blog viewership. One of the main ways is to have an image or post get circulated around pinterest. Unfortunately, my blog is almost entirely writing. People do not pin and repin long passages of writing.
Ahh, but then came the caterpillar!
Baby shower hosts all over the world need to know that green cloth diapers can become a friendly, little guy like this one, and you are just the people to tell them. If you agree with me that this guy is super cute ... you know what to do!
Lesson Learned: Online creativity is no substitute for real life creativity!
Lesson to be Learned:
May 07, 2012
Lesson 9: New Hobbies
They
say you can’t teach an old dog, new tricks. I don’t know whether or not this is
true, having never owned a dog myself. Usually I hear this proverbial phrase
used to encourage wives to accept the shortcomings of their husbands, or as
advice to young girls not to marry men with unforgivable flaws.
A doctor friend of my dad’s, Keith, tells a story of coming into the waiting room and meeting a couple who had been married like 60 years. He sat down and asked the couple how they had made their marriage last so long. The man replied, “I thought about trading her in for another a time or two, but realized I would just be getting a whole new set of problems.” It’s so insightful. No one comes without baggage or imperfections. Everyone has their irritating habits. You don’t escape irritating habits by finding a new relationship; you simply get a different type.
I’d like to back up to the original truism, perhaps approach it from a less metaphorical position and bring it down to a more fun level. When making a list of possible dog tricks, I came up with shake paws, roll over, and fetch. I’ve also seen one family make a high bar with their arms and they had their dog jump over it. That was pretty cool.Tricks, in my mind, are sort of unnecessary things for a dog. In reality, they are impressive ways for their owners to play with them. Humans have these too. They are called hobbies.
Let’s translate the thought into human terms and put it in the form of a question. Can you teach old humans, new hobbies?
I have to say I think so, but I won’t say it’s easy. It takes 10,000 hours to become an expert in anything. I don’t know the amount of time it takes to get to a point with something where you can at least enjoy yourself. I think it helps if you try something that you have at least a base knowledge in.
Last year, my younger brother decided to teach himself the piano. Well, he started by taking lessons, but ended up missing a lesson and getting fired by his teacher. After that it was just the basic skills he had learned with some online tutorials and a whole lot of practice.
It sounds a bit funny for a former college football player, who works selling medical devices in New York City to take up something like the piano. And yet, talking to him now, it makes complete sense. His day is super busy, scrubbing in on long, intense surgeries, living with three roommates (and a dog), in a fast-paced go, go, go environment. He has found a quiet joy and mental peace in sitting and working away at developing his piano skills. Though at first frustrating, the pay-off has been great. Last year on my birthday, he picked out the birthday song. A few weeks ago, he played Free Bird using both hands.
This is a familiar story in my family, as my older brother, also a former college football player, took up the guitar after school. Only teaching himself, seven years later he writes and plays mostly original music. Best of all, he enjoys it.
To say I’m envious is an understatement. At various times in my life I’ve attempted both piano and guitar (and clarinet if I’m going to be honest), but I’ve never had the discipline to push through and reach a stage of proficiency.
I want a hobby. I have school, but it doesn't quite count. At some stage last semester when I was really frustrated with a Greek assignment, I told Mark that I was quitting seminary. It was after all, “his career, but my hobby.” His response was, “we have committed a little too much time and money to this thing if it’s only your hobby. Do your homework.”
I tried decorating for a time, but our current financial situation places barriers on this one. I can design a dream house all I want to, but at some point, it’s all a dream and probably an avenue towards coveting. Though I'm continually on the search for the perfect rug deal, I have slowed down the interest and time spent here.
As mentioned in my herb post, the gardening thing could be fun, but I kill a lot of plants and it turns out I’m allergic to fire ants. Ended up in the ER last bite. Though I religiously carry around my epipen (unlike my cell phone which I lose a lot), this is not a good prerequisite for an outdoor hobby.
So for now, I’m pursuing the writing thing. They say if you are going to be a writer, you should write something every day. I wonder if it’s just a hobby if the goal should be so high. Regardless, I have been finding a joy in writing, processing various ideas and formulating stories. Turns out writing has a lot to do with thinking, and as a mom whose home a fair amount, I have time for that.
Am I actually learning something new? Perhaps, I’m learning the consistency required to do something well. Is it productive? Time will tell.
I post this sort of as an encouragement. Through comments and replies I’m beginning to get a feel for who is actually reading this blog, and all of you are young enough to not be considered old. Thus, if we are still new dogs, then I think it is possible for us to learn new tricks. Today is the first day of the rest of your life (apparently a slogan associated with a drug rehab program, but hey, we’ll go with it.)
Lesson Learned: My brothers are awesome.
A doctor friend of my dad’s, Keith, tells a story of coming into the waiting room and meeting a couple who had been married like 60 years. He sat down and asked the couple how they had made their marriage last so long. The man replied, “I thought about trading her in for another a time or two, but realized I would just be getting a whole new set of problems.” It’s so insightful. No one comes without baggage or imperfections. Everyone has their irritating habits. You don’t escape irritating habits by finding a new relationship; you simply get a different type.
I’d like to back up to the original truism, perhaps approach it from a less metaphorical position and bring it down to a more fun level. When making a list of possible dog tricks, I came up with shake paws, roll over, and fetch. I’ve also seen one family make a high bar with their arms and they had their dog jump over it. That was pretty cool.Tricks, in my mind, are sort of unnecessary things for a dog. In reality, they are impressive ways for their owners to play with them. Humans have these too. They are called hobbies.
Let’s translate the thought into human terms and put it in the form of a question. Can you teach old humans, new hobbies?
I have to say I think so, but I won’t say it’s easy. It takes 10,000 hours to become an expert in anything. I don’t know the amount of time it takes to get to a point with something where you can at least enjoy yourself. I think it helps if you try something that you have at least a base knowledge in.
Last year, my younger brother decided to teach himself the piano. Well, he started by taking lessons, but ended up missing a lesson and getting fired by his teacher. After that it was just the basic skills he had learned with some online tutorials and a whole lot of practice.
It sounds a bit funny for a former college football player, who works selling medical devices in New York City to take up something like the piano. And yet, talking to him now, it makes complete sense. His day is super busy, scrubbing in on long, intense surgeries, living with three roommates (and a dog), in a fast-paced go, go, go environment. He has found a quiet joy and mental peace in sitting and working away at developing his piano skills. Though at first frustrating, the pay-off has been great. Last year on my birthday, he picked out the birthday song. A few weeks ago, he played Free Bird using both hands.
This is a familiar story in my family, as my older brother, also a former college football player, took up the guitar after school. Only teaching himself, seven years later he writes and plays mostly original music. Best of all, he enjoys it.
To say I’m envious is an understatement. At various times in my life I’ve attempted both piano and guitar (and clarinet if I’m going to be honest), but I’ve never had the discipline to push through and reach a stage of proficiency.
I want a hobby. I have school, but it doesn't quite count. At some stage last semester when I was really frustrated with a Greek assignment, I told Mark that I was quitting seminary. It was after all, “his career, but my hobby.” His response was, “we have committed a little too much time and money to this thing if it’s only your hobby. Do your homework.”
I tried decorating for a time, but our current financial situation places barriers on this one. I can design a dream house all I want to, but at some point, it’s all a dream and probably an avenue towards coveting. Though I'm continually on the search for the perfect rug deal, I have slowed down the interest and time spent here.
As mentioned in my herb post, the gardening thing could be fun, but I kill a lot of plants and it turns out I’m allergic to fire ants. Ended up in the ER last bite. Though I religiously carry around my epipen (unlike my cell phone which I lose a lot), this is not a good prerequisite for an outdoor hobby.
So for now, I’m pursuing the writing thing. They say if you are going to be a writer, you should write something every day. I wonder if it’s just a hobby if the goal should be so high. Regardless, I have been finding a joy in writing, processing various ideas and formulating stories. Turns out writing has a lot to do with thinking, and as a mom whose home a fair amount, I have time for that.
Am I actually learning something new? Perhaps, I’m learning the consistency required to do something well. Is it productive? Time will tell.
I post this sort of as an encouragement. Through comments and replies I’m beginning to get a feel for who is actually reading this blog, and all of you are young enough to not be considered old. Thus, if we are still new dogs, then I think it is possible for us to learn new tricks. Today is the first day of the rest of your life (apparently a slogan associated with a drug rehab program, but hey, we’ll go with it.)
Lesson Learned: My brothers are awesome.
April 17, 2012
Lesson 2: Blogs are Scary!
I’ve been feeling a bit like Jerry McGuire these past two
days. One night, he has this ah-ha moment, writes a manifesto
(concerning sports management), xerox’s copies for his whole company, and that same night sends
his message out into the world for people to read and consider. The next morning he wakes and thinks to himself, what have I done? There’s a chance he even
swears. Ever since publishing my first blog post on Sunday, I have flip-flopped
between excited and terrified at the prospect of continuing with it. I had my
ah-ha moment and set it into action, but once I started receiving responses, I realized … this is really out there for people to see!
I began
to question myself on every level. I first considered the people I even briefly
referred to in the post. Will this upset them? Then I think of the high school
youth group kids or older members in my church. Will this shock them? Finally,
I think of people who have memories of really cool times with me. Will this
bore them?
This
isn’t where the battle ends. Next comes the questions of how this could affect
my family. Will people think differently about Mark if I say something
controversial? Is it too impersonal not to include my children’s names? Is it
worth the risk to do so on the off chance that someone weird reads it? The
internet is slightly creepy these days. How do I find a balance between the
closed book of our grandparents’ generation and the “vomit out onto my facebook
page every thought that comes into my head” generation of today? How do I let
my readers in enough that they can know me enough to relate to me without
endangering or embarrassing the aforementioned parties?
It
still doesn’t stop. I start considering the readers again and think, huh, maybe
this first post wasn’t half-bad. Oh no, now there are expectations. What if
this blog turns out to be completely different than all these people expected
and they are totally let down? My thoughts for subject matter range from my appreciation for table linens (this one is already written) to the entire contraception
discussion that’s been in the news lately. What if I commit a Jerry McGuire and
cross into dangerous territory? Mark asked me if I was trying to be all things
to all people. I think this is a Biblical principle, but I couldn’t tell if he
was asking as if that was a good goal or a bad goal. More self-questioning.
The
truth is as a conservative Christian, I will never be able to truly please
everybody. Most of the time Christians offend a lot of people who disagree with
them, because they’ve asserted way too much, but they can never truly please
the people who agree with them, because they haven’t said enough. I pity Tim Tebow the day someone asks him his stance on homosexuality. (I'm sure he'll answer gracefully). A million
apologies now, for all my shortcomings that are bound to occur.
All of
this leads to debating (internally and occasionally with my husband) exactly what direction this blog needs to take. I’ve come to at least one conclusion. My goal is to not to try and force it to be anything. People may occasionally
be bored with my very elementary revelations concerning housework. There is
great potential that people will be offended by my reactions to current events.
However, all of these various topics are a part of this learning that is going
on in my life. I think I’ll call it an awareness, an awareness that the world
and especially America has changed since I’ve been in school. These changes are
causing me to think and consider. I need to process this and the blog will
help. It’s also an awareness that people are competent at running their homes,
raising their families, and looking beautiful at the same time. People are considering their
health, well-being and finances, and I need to incorporate some of this into my own
family’s life.
I guess
this post is being written then as a disclaimer. I will probably not be
interesting and inspiring every single time I write. I apologize for the times
I bore you or offend you and hope that you will continue to come back even if
one particular post causes you disdain. If it becomes a pattern, you are
allowed to quit reading altogether. In the end, I hope to achieve a bit of sorting for
myself and entertainment for my audience. I also look forward to interaction in the comments area. If ya’ll learn something new or
consider a different viewpoint for the first time, then that's an added bonus.
If you’ve
seen Jerry McGuire, you know that his manifesto doesn’t go over so well at the big corporation, and he
gets fired. As he’s walking out making bravado claims, he invites everyone in
the office to join his new company pointing in the air and saying dramatically, “who’s going with me?” He receives mostly blank stares, but Renee
Zellweger (I forget her character’s name, Dorothy or something) is so inspired
by his writing that she says, “I will go with you.” It’s so pathetic as they
walk out, but the movie progresses and so does their company and their relationship.
It ends with this awesomely powerful and cheesy line when Jerry tells Dorothy (Renee), “you complete me.” Will
you ever forget where you were the first time you heard that line? Man, good stuff. The point
… he’s got an idea, he goes with it, he gets fired, he finds the love of his
love. While I’ve already found mine (LOML), I’m hoping for an ending kind of like that
with this blog, even in a metaphorical way.
I don't mean that I think the blog will complete me. I think I just mean a happy ending.
Lesson Learned: If you are going to broadcast your life to the world, give yourself a whole bunch of caveats at the beginning and proceed with ease.
P.S. I wrote this post last night and went to bed feeling confident. (You never publish at night). Unfortunately, the second my head hit the pillow, the back and forth began. "What if the Jerry McGuire analogy is totally played out," said one side. "You can't help it if you feel like Jerry McGuire," said the other. In the end, I assured myself that I would add this additional blip in the morning (now) and allowed myself to fall asleep.
Lesson Learned: If you are going to broadcast your life to the world, give yourself a whole bunch of caveats at the beginning and proceed with ease.
P.S. I wrote this post last night and went to bed feeling confident. (You never publish at night). Unfortunately, the second my head hit the pillow, the back and forth began. "What if the Jerry McGuire analogy is totally played out," said one side. "You can't help it if you feel like Jerry McGuire," said the other. In the end, I assured myself that I would add this additional blip in the morning (now) and allowed myself to fall asleep.
April 15, 2012
Lesson 1: A New Definition of Adolescence
I
recently heard that there is a new definition of adolescence, encompassing
people from ages 10-30. Children are getting older faster and “grown-ups” are staying
young longer. This new adolescence applies even to twenty-year-olds who have
jobs, are married, and have children.
This information totally resonated with me. As a 27-year old woman, married for three years and the mother of two, I have always felt this obligation to feel old, to be old. I’m a grown-up, right! I am responsible for the lives of two real people and shaping who they are going to become. Yet, I do not feel like a grown-up.
The majority of my high school and college girlfriends live very different lives from me … many still single, living it up in big cities, looking gorgeous (no post-pregnancy awkward body changes). The few that are married work full-time alongside their husbands, and only two have children. Well, technically, one has a baby … the other is pregnant!
I truly believe most college graduates experience a very strange reality after completing their schooling. Within my own various groups of friends, it did not matter whether one moved home, moved to a different city, took a great job, didn’t have a job, entered grad school, got married, broke up with their boyfriend, were people of faith, or had no religion at all … all went through this period of growing pains. I attribute it to being the first time in our lives when there was not someone telling us what the next step was. It didn’t matter if you took off for Colorado to work as a lift operator and ski every day. It didn’t matter if you worked in a touristy restaurant at night, so you could spend the whole day at the beach. The responsibility for your choices fell upon you, and that was weird!
I’ve concluded that people in my generation grow past this uncertain period when they come to grips with the fact that they really don’t know, and decide to just get on with it.
I was just home in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania for a wedding, the third out of a group of twelve girls. I had multiple conversations with my beautiful, successful, confident friends, all of whom were totally freaked out by the idea of marriage (even though some had pretty awesome boyfriends as dates). I spent the night shelling out advice on the matter: make sure you agree on the big things … and then make a commitment to get on with it. Decide that you are going to stick it out with this person and live each day … one day at a time … doing just that.
This information totally resonated with me. As a 27-year old woman, married for three years and the mother of two, I have always felt this obligation to feel old, to be old. I’m a grown-up, right! I am responsible for the lives of two real people and shaping who they are going to become. Yet, I do not feel like a grown-up.
The majority of my high school and college girlfriends live very different lives from me … many still single, living it up in big cities, looking gorgeous (no post-pregnancy awkward body changes). The few that are married work full-time alongside their husbands, and only two have children. Well, technically, one has a baby … the other is pregnant!
I truly believe most college graduates experience a very strange reality after completing their schooling. Within my own various groups of friends, it did not matter whether one moved home, moved to a different city, took a great job, didn’t have a job, entered grad school, got married, broke up with their boyfriend, were people of faith, or had no religion at all … all went through this period of growing pains. I attribute it to being the first time in our lives when there was not someone telling us what the next step was. It didn’t matter if you took off for Colorado to work as a lift operator and ski every day. It didn’t matter if you worked in a touristy restaurant at night, so you could spend the whole day at the beach. The responsibility for your choices fell upon you, and that was weird!
I’ve concluded that people in my generation grow past this uncertain period when they come to grips with the fact that they really don’t know, and decide to just get on with it.
I was just home in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania for a wedding, the third out of a group of twelve girls. I had multiple conversations with my beautiful, successful, confident friends, all of whom were totally freaked out by the idea of marriage (even though some had pretty awesome boyfriends as dates). I spent the night shelling out advice on the matter: make sure you agree on the big things … and then make a commitment to get on with it. Decide that you are going to stick it out with this person and live each day … one day at a time … doing just that.
It’s
easy for me to give such advice, because I am an expert on the matter. Oh wait,
I’m pretty sure the title of this blog is “I Don’t Have a Clue.” Yes, yes, it
is. I am new to this marriage thing. I’ve been told by a friend of mine that
she didn’t really start to know her spouse (and realize how irritating he was)
until she was married six years! Ahhh! Married people … don’t get comfortable.
Keep working at it!
Regardless, though we have only been officially entwined
for three years, my husband and I have battled a few storms together. We received the joyful
(and shocking news) that I was with child about a month after our wedding. This
sweet girl ended up being delivered seven weeks early, due to medical
complications with me. She spent a month in the NICU, and during this time, I
underwent three surgeries: an emergency C-section, a removal of a tumor in my
adrenal gland, and stomach surgery to stop crazy bleeding. The whole “in
sickness and in health” vow was put to the test pretty quickly for us. We then
moved south, to Charlotte, NC to start graduate school at Reformed Theological
Seminary. Two years later brought another move, even souther (not a word
according to spellcheck), to Clover, SC and another baby, this time a boy!
With my
first child, I was recovering from my sickness (cushing) at the same time I was
becoming a new mom. Thus, most of those things new mom’s worry about, I didn’t
really have time to think about. First bonding moment? I didn’t meet my
daughter until twelve hours after she was born, because my pain meds were
making me crazy. First baby-sitter anxiety? A day after she got home from the
NICU, I was back in the hospital for ten days with a bleeding stomach, leaving
my mother and my mother-in-law to care for my 5lb preemie. Baby experiencing
neglect because mom doesn’t answer every cry? I cannot even count how many
(loud) cries I slept through. And the list goes on. The moral of this story
is: she has survived and she’s awesome.
However,
my experience with baby number two has been completely different! I had
a healthy, happy pregnancy, delivered the normal way (with the aid of some
medication), and brought my son home two days later.
A shift has occurred within me, and for the first time, I really feel like a mom. It could be that having two children requires different kinds of interaction: I’m teaching one to read and the other to sleep. It could be that 27 seems like a normal age to be a mom, not too young, not too old. It could be that I have 14 pregnant friends from various stages in life and so soon, I will not feel like the only mom out there. Regardless, putting all of this together … I have come to grips with the fact that life is full of uncertainties, feel like I can at least face those uncertainties as I accept my role as the mother of two, wife of one … and yet, back to the adolescence discussion, I don’t really have a clue what I am doing!
Thus, we have finally come to point of the creation of this blog! I’m an educated woman, who reads a lot, and I have been learning a ton lately! In our last move, we inherited weekly issues of TIME and Entertainment magazines. I also had a friend give me bags of magazines from the fall ranging from Southern Lady to Good Housekeeping to Redbook. At eight months pregnant, not wanting to move much, I devoured them. Reading current publications catches one up-to-date on current issues, and I have had conversations ranging from politics, to disciplining children, to nutrition and exercise, to gardening, to cleaning, to investments.
A lot of this is new for me!
These are topics that grown-ups are expected to understand and be knowledgeable on, but there is a time when a person actually has to learn it all in order to be knowledgeable on it. So, this blog is going to document one grown-up adolescent’s journey into full-fledge adulthood. Hopefully, as I learn, I can help educate you as well (and help me remember what I was talking about last week! A baby and a toddler can make you forgetful).
Lesson Learned: Being ok with saying, "I don't have a clue," is the first step to getting a clue. (I'm convinced of this.)
A shift has occurred within me, and for the first time, I really feel like a mom. It could be that having two children requires different kinds of interaction: I’m teaching one to read and the other to sleep. It could be that 27 seems like a normal age to be a mom, not too young, not too old. It could be that I have 14 pregnant friends from various stages in life and so soon, I will not feel like the only mom out there. Regardless, putting all of this together … I have come to grips with the fact that life is full of uncertainties, feel like I can at least face those uncertainties as I accept my role as the mother of two, wife of one … and yet, back to the adolescence discussion, I don’t really have a clue what I am doing!
Thus, we have finally come to point of the creation of this blog! I’m an educated woman, who reads a lot, and I have been learning a ton lately! In our last move, we inherited weekly issues of TIME and Entertainment magazines. I also had a friend give me bags of magazines from the fall ranging from Southern Lady to Good Housekeeping to Redbook. At eight months pregnant, not wanting to move much, I devoured them. Reading current publications catches one up-to-date on current issues, and I have had conversations ranging from politics, to disciplining children, to nutrition and exercise, to gardening, to cleaning, to investments.
A lot of this is new for me!
These are topics that grown-ups are expected to understand and be knowledgeable on, but there is a time when a person actually has to learn it all in order to be knowledgeable on it. So, this blog is going to document one grown-up adolescent’s journey into full-fledge adulthood. Hopefully, as I learn, I can help educate you as well (and help me remember what I was talking about last week! A baby and a toddler can make you forgetful).
Lesson Learned: Being ok with saying, "I don't have a clue," is the first step to getting a clue. (I'm convinced of this.)
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